Antelope Springs Counseling

Individual and Couple’s Relationships

Enrichment

The Five Love Languages
Gary D. Chapman
ISBN: 0802473156

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
John Gottman
ISBN: 0609805797

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

Passionate Marriage
David Schnarch
ISBN: 0393334279

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

What Makes Love Last?: How To Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal
John Gottman
ISBN: 1451608489

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

soul mates

Soul Mates
Thomas Moore
ISBN: 0060925752

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

Repairing / Healing

Facing Love Addiction

Facing Love Addiction
Pia Mellody
ISBN: 0062506048

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

Obsessive Love

Obsessive Love
Susan Forward
ISBN: 0553381423

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

Too Good to Leave Too Bad to Stay

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay
Mira Kirshenbaum
ISBN: 0452275350

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

I Love You But I Don't Trust You

I Love You But I Don’t Trust You
Mira Kirshenbaum
ISBN: 0425245314

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

Infidelity A Survival Guide

Infidelity: A Survival Guide
Don-David Lusterman
ISBN: 1572240873


Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It
Steve Stosny & Patricia Love
ISBN: 0767923189


Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

After the Affair

After The Affair
Janis Abrahms Spring
ISBN: 0062122703

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

Not Just Friends

Not “Just Friends”
Shirley Glass
ISBN: 0743225503


Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

Private Lies

Private Lies
Frank Pittman
ISBN: 0393307077

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

Boundaries and Relationships

Boundaries and Relationships
Charles Whitfield
ISBN: 155874259X

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

Stop Walking on Eggshells

Stop Walking On Eggshells
Paul T. Mason & Randi Kreger
ISBN: 1572246901

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

Why Does He Do That

Why Does He Do That?
Lundy Bancroft
ISBN: 0425191656

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

Individual Enrichment and Healing

Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence
Daniel Goleman
ISBN: 055338371X

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

A Language Older Than Words

A Language Older Than Words
Derrick Jensen
ISBN: 1931498555

          I approach this review with some reverence because simply stated, I’m not sure how any review can do this book justice and capture even a slice of what Jensen’s work is all about. I’ll state right up front, I’m strongly and emphatically recommending that you read and ponder this book. It’s one of those rare pieces of soul that only comes along once in a while. After starting the book I immediately ordered more as gifts for friends and family. It may not make me very popular with some, but I really think that Jensen’s ideas are important for each of us to consider.

           In “A Language Older Than Words” Jensen is asking us to rethink and to FEEL in some very primal, soulful ways about WHO we are, WHERE we are and with some preliminary answers to those questions, WHERE ARE WE GOING? The way that Jensen tells his story and asks his questions is designed to challenge our basic way of living, the way we think about others, to shake us out of the denial that we so placidly wander around in, day after day. This book is a must read for inner sentence work, for any type of cognitive restructuring, or for anyone concerned about life. Consider the following passage, found at the beginning of the first chapter;

           “There is a language older by far and deeper than words. It is the language of bodies, of body on body, wind on snow, rain on trees, wave on stone. It is the language of dream, gesture, symbol, memory. We have forgotten this language. We do not even remember that it exists
           In order for us to maintain our way of living, we must, in a broad sense, tell lies to each other, and especially to ourselves. It is not necessary that these lies be particularly believable. The lies act as barriers to truth. These barriers to truth are necessary because without them many deplorable acts would become impossible. Truth must at all costs be avoided. When we do allow self-evident truths to percolate past our defenses and into our consciousness, they are treated like so many hand grenades rolling across the dance floor of an improbably macabre party. We try to stay out of harm’s way, afraid they will go off, shatter our delusions, and leave us exposed to what we have done to the world and to ourselves, exposed as the hollow people we have become. And so we avoid these truths, these self-evident truths, and continue the dance of world destruction.”

           I’m not sure exactly why this book tears at me so much, it may be the years of therapy that I’ve done, it may be my self-reflection, or maybe some sense of social- consciousness, probably some of all of that and more. When I read Jensen, something deep inside me is always touched. My first experience with his writing was “A Culture of Make Believe” and more currently I am reading “Walking on Water”, “Reading, Writing and Revolution”. Each one of those reading experiences is something that, for me at least, is far more than just reading a book. . . it’s an experience that is spiritual, poignant, gut wrenching and challenging. I’m reminded of the question from What the Bleep, “how far down the rabbit hole do YOU want to go?” When I read Jensen I feel like I’ve at least taken a couple of steps, or maybe stumbled down the hole. This is not reading that is light or for relaxation and medicating. One of the reviewers of this book, the noted author, Michael W. Fox stated;

           “A brilliant and disturbing investigation of human nature that becomes an inspiring guide to self-discovery, personal salvation, and the survival of humanity. “A Language Older than Words” is a wake-up call to embrace life, beauty and truth. The wisdom in this book will change you forever.”

           I think for most of us the word “disturbing” will apply as we consider Jensen’s thoughts and questions. He wants us to see the “hand grenade”, to understand what that means and to ultimately DO something about it, beginning with CHANGING how we think. Like Gandhi said, “be the change that you want to see in the world”.

           Another quality that I really like about Jensen, is his willingness to include himself in the problems he describes and probes. It makes the book very readable to be part of some of the philosophical and daily struggles that Jensen experiences because of awareness.

           If you decide to purchase “A Language Older Than Words”, and embark on this part of your journey, be prepared to be challenged, disturbed and ultimately pleaded with to “step into your greatness” to be responsible in some new and transforming ways.

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

Social Intelligence

Social Intelligence
Daniel Goleman
ISBN: 055338449X

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

Focus

Focus
Daniel Goleman
ISBN: 0062114867

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

To Have or To Be

To Have Or To Be?
Erich Fromm
ISBN: 178093680X

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

A Path With Heart
Jack Kornfield
ISBN: 0553372114

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem

The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem
Nathaniel Branden
ISBN: 0553374397

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

The Art of Living Consciously

The Art of Living Consciously
Nathaniel Branden
ISBN: 0684838494

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

Ten Days to Self-Esteem

Ten Days to Self-Esteem
David Burns
ISBN: 0688094554

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book.

Feeling Good

Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy
David Burns
ISBN: 0380810336

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals

The Gift Of Fear
Gavin de Becker
ISBN: 0440508835

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

Intimacy and Solitude

Intimacy and Solitude
Stephanie Dowrick
ISBN: 0393313611

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

Care of the Soul

Care of the Soul
Thomas Moore
ISBN: 0060922249

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

The Dance of Anger

The Dance of Anger
Harriet Lerner
ISBN: 006074104X

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

The Dance of Intimacy

The Dance of Intimacy
Harriet Lerner
ISBN: 006091646X

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

A General Theory of Love

A General Theory of Love
Thomas Lewis, Fari Amini & Richard Lannon
ISBN: 0375709223

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

The Happiness Hypothesis

The Happiness Hypothesis
Jonathan Haidt
ISBN: 0465028020

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

Healing the Shame that Binds You

Healing the Shame that Binds You
John Bradshaw
ISBN: 0757303234

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

Bradshaw On The Family

Bradshaw On: The Family
John Bradshaw
ISBN: 1558744274

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

Family Secrets

Family Secrets
John Bradshaw
ISBN: 0553374982

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

Coming Home to Who You Are

Coming Home to Who You Are
David Richo
ISBN: 1590306848

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

How to Be an Adult in Relationships

How to Be an Adult in Relationships
David Richo
ISBN: 1570628122

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

How to Be an Adult

How to Be an Adult
David Richo
ISBN: 0809132230

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

The Five Things We Cannot Change

The Five Things We Cannot Change
David Richo
ISBN: 1590303083

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

Reinventing Your Life

Reinventing Your Life
Jeffrey Young
ISBN: 0452272041

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

Soul Searching

Soul Searching
William J. Doherty
ISBN: 046500945X

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

The Art Of War

The Art of War
Sun Tzu
ISBN: 1936594358

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

How Different Religions View Death

How Different Religions View Death and the Afterlife
Christopher Jay Johnson & Marsha G. McGee
ISBN: 0914783858

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

Looking Through the Eyes of Trauma and Dissociation

Looking Through The Eyes of Trauma and Dissociation: An Illustrated Guide for EMDR Therapists and Clients
Sandra Paulsen
ISBN: 1439213216

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

First You Cry

First, You Cry (Triumph Over Breast Cancer)
Betty Rollin
ISBN: 0060956305

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

The Wisdom of Native Americans

The Wisdom of the Native Americans
Kent Nerburn
ISBN: 1567319939

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book

Living in Balance

Living in Balance
Joel Levey & Michelle Levey
ISBN: 1611250293

Click here for Amazon.com’s page on this book